Mr. Platonic is pissed about me and Mr. Unintended being together. So pissed. So bitter.
He started acting crabby toward us during one of our group get-togethers a few weeks ago. Wouldn’t say why. Just not himself. Just crabby. At the time, Mr. Unintended and I were still kind of on the down-low. From my perspective, I wasn’t entirely sure if we were officially dating and I didn’t want to make a bunch of announcements until I knew it was more of a sure thing.
From Mr. Platonic’s perspective, we were sneaking around, lying, and having a fling behind his back.
Okay, one, I wouldn’t consider it sneaking around or lying at all… like I said, I just didn’t want to jump the gun. If he would’ve asked any questions, I would’ve been honest with him. But he didn’t. And the real question I have – why was he entitled to this information anyway? Why was it his business? Why should I (and/or Mr. Unintended) report to him?
Through the grapevine, I heard he was mad that we hadn’t told him yet, so I decided to just tell him and he confessed that was why he was acting crabby. He said he needed some time away from me which I totally understood and respected.
He also claimed that me dating Mr. Unintended started when he (Mr. Platonic) was still trying to date me. Are you kidding, Mr. Platonic? I said “no” to you a hundred and one times! I spelled it out for you! That’s your own damn fault for trying to pursue a lost cause! Again – I don’t owe you anything!
However, we’ve managed to run into each other a couple other times, and we’re talking again now… but he’s clearly still hurt. I’ve apologized to him multiple times for hurting him. I’ve even apologized for keeping the secret, but I don’t know why, because I don’t think it was wrong to keep it quiet at first. I’m done apologizing. If he still chooses to be friends, it’ll just take time. And perhaps he’ll actually get through his head that I’m not interested in him. I do feel bad for the guy. I truly do. But there’s nothing else I can do.